Conflicting needs

My wife and I are so different in character and behaviour. She is fast I am slow. She is yesterday I am tomorrow. She is loud I am quiet. She is an extrovert I am an introvert. She has to be busy all the time I want quiet and rest all the time. She wants details I want bottom lines. Because of these very often we have different and opposing needs. These opposing needs often brings conflict to our relationship. The problem with opposing needs is who's needs are more important and who should give up their needs for the other. The one who is more aggresive and can put fear or guilt on the other normally gets their needs met while the other one who continually gives in feels deprived although it seems the conflict is resolved and there is peace.This giving in for the other may seem to work but there is no intimacy in the relationship because one is deprived and forced to give in to the others needs.Finding a solution to this problem is a life long journey but in order to make this journey more pleasant and at times bring intimacy in our relationship we both need to be aware that having needs is natural and we both have it. But I think that the more important thing to be aware of is that Cora's needs are as important as my own needs.Because of this when conflict arrise we must be able to make an effort to discuss this differences in our needs with the other person 's need in mind so that we can come up with a win-win solution.This is difficult because we instinctively are more concerned with our own needs and ours seem to always be the right one. So again being aware that our spouse needs or even our childrens needs are as important as our own needs can help in resolving conflicts.